Nobody in your office likes you. You’ve tried to figure out why. You’re not dishonest or arrogant. You aren’t rude and you don’t act inappropriately. You’re not controlling, you don’t suck up to your bosses, and you’re not a meanie. Still can’t figure it out? Here are some less-obvious reasons nobody seems to like you.
Your moods are unpredictable
Are your coworkers gambling every time they talk to you? Do you have a nickname when you’re moody? If so, those mood swings are probably the cause of your unpopularity. Try to keep your mood as even keel as you can when you’re at the office. If coworkers know what to expect when you’re around, they may be more likely to let you in.
The glass is always half empty
Stop focusing on the negative. If you’re always complaining, you’re going to bring everyone around you down. If you coworkers have been constantly subjected to your negativity, they’ve probably learned to avoid you at all cost. Make the glass half-full for once. As the song says, you have to “Ac-Cent-Tchu-Ate the Positive.”
You need to learn to keep your mouth shut
If you’re constantly talking about coworkers behind their backs, you’re going to eventually develop a reputation as a gossip. Once you’ve been labeled the office gossip, people are going to stop telling you things. If you’ve been shut out of office conversations, maybe this is why. Instead of spilling the beans so often, try keeping them to yourself.
You can’t be counted on
Nobody is going to like you if they have to keep picking up your slack. Pull your own weight and be reliable. Yes means yes and no means no. Don’t make promises you don’t intend to keep. Make sure your colleagues know they can count on you.